Tovah Means, MS, LMFT: Finding Safety to See What Was Hidden
“We go blind to protect ourselves—and we only regain sight when it finally feels safe enough to see again.”
Chapter Summary:
In Finding Safety to See What Was Hidden, therapist Tovah Means, M.S., L.M.F.T., explores the invisible nature of relational trauma and the slow, embodied process of making it visible. Drawing from personal and clinical experience, they describe how the mind can dissociate from overwhelming early pain, especially when that pain is tied to people we depended on. Healing becomes possible not through insight alone, but through relationships that offer enough safety to look again. This chapter is a quiet, powerful reflection on how survivors begin to recover their history—not all at once, but when the body finally knows it is safe.
About Tovah:
Tovah Means, M.S., L.M.F.T., is a psychotherapist, teacher, and owner at Watch Hill Therapy in Chicago. Their work focuses on complex relational trauma and helping people reconnect with their authentic selves after early disconnection.